Talking through disagreements

🔵 Wellness practice

Disagreements happen in every family. What matters is whether people feel respected while they work things out.

Before you speak

If your voice is rising or your body feels tense, take a short break and agree when you will return.
Choose a calm time: not in front of others, and not late at night.
Decide what you actually want to ask for.

Describe what happened and how it affects you, without blaming. Fill in the boxes to build one. Nothing is saved or sent.

When… (what happened)I feel… (a feeling)because… (the reason)I would like… (a small request)

Ask, “How does this look to you?” and say back what you hear before you respond.

You do not need to settle everything today. One clear, fair step is a good result.

Respectful disagreement is healthy. Insults, threats, or physical force are not. If you feel unsafe, read “Healthy and unhealthy relationships”.

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