Healthy and unhealthy relationships
🟢 Evidence-based
Good relationships protect our mental health. It helps to know what respect looks like, and what it does not.
Signs of a healthy relationship
- You can say no, and you are listened to.
- You can disagree without fear.
- Each person has time and space for friends and interests.
- Money, decisions and chores are shared fairly.
- You feel safe, and mostly feel better after time together.
Warning signs
- Put-downs, name-calling or constant criticism.
- Controlling who you see, where you go, or your phone and money.
- Threats, pressure, or fear of the other person’s reactions.
- Pushing, hitting, or forcing you to do things.
If you feel unsafe: it is never your fault. If you can, move to a safe place, tell someone you trust, and contact your local emergency services if you are in danger. A doctor, counsellor or a trusted relative can help you plan next steps.
If you are worried about someone
Listen without blaming, tell them you are there, and encourage them to talk to someone trained to help. Do not confront the other person on their behalf, as this can raise the risk.